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First Kiss

One of the most intimidating moves for a guy is going in for the first kiss. It is absolutely critical to get the first kiss. Everything stems from the first kiss, so it will either be the beginning of a long successful road or a horrifying, male-ego damaging event.

There are several ways to go about the first kiss. The route that should be taken all depends on two things. First, the chemistry you have with the girl and second, what type of girl she is. I’ll list a few examples of some scenarios, but so much will depend on your ability to read people and situations. I’ll also give you a couple pointers on the first kiss that so many rookies screw up, which seals their fate before they ever get off the ground.

If you are dealing with a good girl or a prude, then a kiss is a pretty big deal to them. It’s not something that you can just go in for and take. It is something that has to be earned, and they aren’t just going to let any aggressive boy come right in and take their virtue….or at least so they think. If it is a good girl, then more than likely they are looking for a good boy or a gentleman. Good girls are also the hardest to read in regards to whether or not you’ll be received well when trying to kiss them. They are the ones that you just never know if they want you or not.

Never just try to steal a kiss from a prude. If they do the super horrifying head turn as you try to kiss them, it will likely scar you for years. And after the head turn, there is the awkward moment of silence as you sit and realize you just looked like one of the biggest jackasses on the planet.

If the head turn ever does happen, just promptly insult their wooden leg. Tell them you were just trying to make them feel like less of a worthless bitch, and you were trying to throw them a bone by having a hottie such as yourself kiss them. Then give them the finger and walk the fuck out. Ok, don’t really do that, but wouldn’t it be fun? If you do suffer that type of shutdown from a girl, that’s what you’ll feel like doing. The key with this type of girl is not letting the shutdown happen.

If they are looking for a gentleman, be a gentleman. Save yourself the rejection and ask to kiss them. That’s right- ask if you can kiss them. I know it sounds a little pathetic and kind of cheesy, but trust me, they will think it is a sweet fairy-tale and good girls eat that shit up. Don’t sound pathetic when you ask to kiss her. Try to be romantic about it. For example, “I haven’t been able to think about anything but kissing you for the last hour. Would I be way out of line if I kissed you right now?” Usually they will eat it up, but there will be times when the good girl shuts you down.

However, when taking this approach, the shutdown will be far less traumatic than the head turn. You'll also still be in good position to try later. If she does give you the "no", even though it's more than likely she won’t, say something like, “That’s fine, I’ll wait. It will be much better later.” That takes the ultimate "no" out of the kissing situation and puts it in her head that it IS going to happen, just not at the moment.

If she says yes, then make it count. Just don’t rush right in there and start going at it. Remember, if she is a good girl, she is looking for Prince Charming and a fairy tale kiss. Take it nice and slow. Look at her for a few seconds, no more than 3 or you’ll look like a tool. Put both of your hands on her face with your fingers under her ears and towards the back of her head. Move nice and slowly, and very caressing. Slowly, slowly, and all romantic-like, move in for the kiss and make it count. Make it something to remember, and there will be plenty more where that came from.

It is important to know how to kiss. I don’t care what girl you are with, even the trampy one that was just blowing you in the car-ride home. Never, never, never go straight to the tongue or the hard kiss. You should attempt to do a 3 peck minimum with the first kiss. Nothing kills a man's reputation like being known as the guy that just stuck the tongue right in her mouth and went to town.

The key is to start a little teasing. If her tongue is in your mouth right away, do the "soft lips kiss" and pull back. The first peck should be on her lower lip; it should be very soft and last about 2 seconds or so with a nice soft finish. Pull back, but with your hands still holding her face, slowly move right back in and go to the upper lip while doing the same thing with a slow pull back after a soft finish. The third should be targeted on both lips and that’s the one that you hold. Stay there, slowly open your lips a bit wider, and she will reciprocate. Then slowly put just the tip of your tongue in to meet hers. Even if she doesn’t have a fucking clue how to kiss runs straight for the tonsil hockey, stay in charge of the kiss. Make the girl kiss your way.

Once you have initial "meeting of the tongues," just slowly explore the tip of their tongue left to right, nice and soft. You can do that for up to 10 seconds or so at the max. Nothing wears a girl out like the never-ending 5 minute kiss from hell where the tongues are just rolling around in there. It’s like, ok, what the fuck do we do now? After your 10 or so seconds finish softly on either her upper or lower lip only and pull back. Then you go in for another round and repeat the third peck as often as you want.

Another good tip is that when you do take a momentary break and pull back, take 2-3 seconds to look into her eyes as they will more than likely be open for a moment. You can even give your most sexy little smirk before moving back in. Don’t smile like you just heard a funny joke. Smile as if you are saying "this is the best moment of my life and you are the most amazing girl on the planet.' She’ll be all yours. If the passion is there, then you can get into the deeper tongue play. You’ll have to read what she wants.

Be sure to never be too aggressive with the kissing. Normally a good girl will never be up for the deep tongue kissing if you are just doing a make out session. The deep tonguing usually comes from the tramps, or the "drunken, passionate, we are about to get freaky" girls.

Use this method of kissing for all girls. It starts with the lesser of the kissing evils and lets you work into the deep stuff if that’s what they want. If you go for the hardcore stuff right away and it's not what they want, you’re doomed for the future. The kissing (as well as quite possibly the girl) won’t be there for long. Crawl before you walk, and then maybe you can sprint later.

GABRIEL

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