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This article will help you understand how long to carry on the "email back and forth" game, and just how to go about setting up a face to face meeting with the object of your online affection. There are really no hard and fast rules for how long you should wait before suggesting a face to face meeting. If you hit it off right away with a girl, then you can usually get a meeting out of them a little quicker than if the emails seem cold, stuffy, and very impersonal. I personally prefer to cut right to the chase when it comes
to asking a girl to meet me in person. Most
girls are more willing to cut out the bullshit emails than you might think. Sometimes as early as the second email I tell
the girl that I don't like back and forth emails and that, while I know it
might anger the online dating gods not to meet the mandatory 50 emails, I am an
old fashioned type of guy that likes to talk face to face or at least on the
phone. Be cautious though. If you whip this move out too early it could
look desperate or suspicious. Use girl
logic (ie: think with your heart, not with your head) and tell her that it’s
hard to feel genuine chemistry through a computer. You can learn so much about a person by
hearing their tone of voice and observing their body language. The old cliché "the eyes are a window to
the soul" is absolutely true. Let
them know that you are here to actually find someone you are compatible with
which is hard to do through email. When a girl gives you her number, ask her when you should
call her. Nothing will kill your spirit
like having her rush you off the phone because you called at a bad time. Once you do get her on the phone make sure
not to have awkward silences. Keep the
conversation flowing. Keep it light and
don’t let it turn into an interview.
Your goal should be a nice pleasant conversation. If the conversation goes well I’ll usually
end it by saying, “ok, I’m convinced you’re not a crazy stalker now, so when do
you want to get together for a cocktail?” The better the phone call, the better chance
she'll want to meet you in person. It is not always necessary to talk on the phone before
meeting in person. If you think your
phone work might be a dealbreaker, try using a clever line through email. I like to say something to the effect of “I
lose patience with emailing back and forth, why don’t you meet me for a
cocktail tomorrow night……in a well lit public place of course!” Let them know that it will just be for one
drink; just enough to get some personal face to face time. Some girls are too jaded to meet up with a guy they only
know from limited online contact. If
you're dealing with such a girl, tell her that you're going out with a buddy and
wondered if she'd like to bring along a friend and meet up. Girls generally feel much less intimidated if
they know one of their friends will be there with them. Another way to meet up with a girl is to tell her that you
plan on being [at the bars] later. Tell
her to text you if she wants to meet up with you. You might be surprised how often they’ll make
it a point to be [at the bars] so they can meet up with you in a low pressure
environment in the company of their friends.
When you meet a girl this way it has the added benefit of giving each of
you the chance to bail if you don't like what you see. Of course, regardless of what methods you use, some girls
will insist on more email contact before meeting up. What do you care? You probably have 5 others waiting that will
meet you that night anyway, so put her at the end of the list; you’ll get to her
in time. Go forth young masters of your online domain! GABRIEL
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