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Here are a few tips on some things in a relationship that you should always do and things you should never do. These are simply observations from my past relationships that I know are good and bad. I have had three multiple year relationships with women who had very different personalities, but these rules pretty much held true for them all. ALWAYS build your girlfriend up…. NEVER tear her down…ESPECIALLY in public. After you are in a relationship for awhile, you begin to feel a sense of comfort with her, and you may feel a license to tease her whenever you want. Now it is ok to tease them as part of a healthy relationship when it is just the two of you and you are being playful, but never, never, never tease them in front of anyone in public. Even if it is how you act in private and you are so absolutely certain they will take no offense to it, DON’T!!!! Trust me on this one, there will be little mental notes taken and it will ultimately put dents in the armor of your relationship. Build your girlfriend up. No matter what, even if they do some seriously stupid shit in front of people, don’t comment on it. Rather, take an opportunity to talk about something they did well. Treat the fucking stupid thing they did like a pink elephant in the room that you don’t see. If you have to, turn it around to something that you did really stupid. Whatever the case is, don’t even act like you realized it. And if someone else does mention it…..defend her honor. Never laugh it off. You are her knight in shining armor. Take the chance to build her up.  NEVER badmouth her family or her friends. Even if you think they are absolutely worthless, hold your tongue. Call your buddy and tell him about how worthless they are. Just never mention it to her. They were there long before you were and will be there long after you are gone. Trust me on this one, even if she hates her brother and badmouths him all the time, don’t join in. There has to be a moment in her life where she loved him. After all he is her brother and you are attacking something that she has once loved. NEVER treat her like anything less than a queen in front of her family or friends. Never argue in front of them either. I assure you that they will take notice of everything you do and as soon as they are against you, you are doomed. Be the bigger man. Even if she is totally wrong and treating you like a piece of shit, still treat her like a queen and never argue in front of them. Even if she is clearly wrong when you two are arguing, they still will take her side and think poorly of you. If you continue to treat her like gold in circumstances where she is clearly in the wrong, then the family or friends will think you are the salt of the earth and an amazing man that's perfect for her ALWAYS complement your girlfriend. Women need to feel pretty; they need to feel like they are wanted by you. If you are giving them complements, not only are you making them feel good about themselves for whatever you are complementing, but you are also showing them that you still want and notice them. You can be a real piece of shit boyfriend, but if you complement them once a day, chances are they will stay with your sorry ass for some reason. You make them feel good about themselves. Everyone likes to feel good about themselves or feel sought after. If you are giving her what she needs in that category, chances are she’ll stay with you even though you suck and she won’t go around the corner to the waiting arms of Mandingo. NEVER look at other women when you are out with your girlfriend. I don’t care if you think there is no way that they are going to see that little glance out of the corner of your eye. They will. Just don’t do it; it’s not worth it. If you in fact never do, they’ll notice that and think you are the best guy on the planet for only having eyes for them. NEVER call them a bitch. This should go unsaid. But for some reason, we get all jazzed up in an argument and the words come out. Or we will say you are “acting bitchy”. True, we didn’t call them a bitch, but they won’t understand that. From the great words of Dr. Phil, “it’s awfully hard to unring a bell” That’s so true. You can’t take back things that you say, you just can’t. Take a second to think about what's about to come out of your mouth. You’ll thank yourself for it. ALWAYS get them something for their birthdays, anniversaries, etc. And never forget those important dates. If you’re with someone long enough, there will surely come the time when you think you don't need to celebrate some special occasion. Or she may say that she REALLY, REALLY, doesn’t want anything for her birthday/anniversary. She lying; she does. Get her something, anything, even if it is just a card. You really should do something better, but don’t you dare ever not get her anything or forget those dates. It is relationship suicide. I don’t care how convincing she is when she is saying she really doesn’t want to celebrate it or want anything… RULE… she does and you must. ALWAYS communicate. NEVER yell. As soon as you yell or turn up the volume, the ears turn off and nothing gets accomplished. If you want to have a happy and healthy relationship, learn to be Mr. Sensitive that actually listens and says things like “I feel….” These are just a few of the things that will help you have a smooth sailing relationship. They don’t cover everything, but they are a pretty good guide for some of the biggies that you’ll be faced with when trying to figure out the most unusual creatures on the planet. Of course you’ll never totally figure women out, but it sure is fun trying. GABRIEL
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