Fear not, this situation is very common in women.  As men we just can’t seem to understand why we fail to bring our women to orgasm.  I mean shit, sometimes if wind blows just right we'll wind up shooting a five-roper all over the place.  Women don't work this way.  There are a lot of factors that sometimes make it hard for women to achieve orgasm.  Oftentimes, the girl will not relax and allow it to happen.  They may be self conscious of the noises they make, the fluids they secrete, or the feeling of vulnerability that accompanies total relaxation. 

Try talking about it with your partner and see if she has any of these anxieties holding her back from just letting go and allowing the orgasm to happen.  Many times if they just completely relax, they can be successful even when prior attempts have failed.  It’s also very common for women to have a difficult time climaxing during sex but an easier time during cunnilingus.  If she has never had an orgasm, try starting off with cunnilingus, (here's my article on it). If you can’t get her to climax through cunnilingus, she just might not be able to.  It’s rare, but I’ve ran into a few women that can't climax unless it’s just with themselves. 

Once you have broken the orgasm barrier with cunnilingus, it might be easier to bring her to orgasm during sex.  There are also some positions and techniques that you can use during sex which might make it easier for you to achieve your goal.  Read my article on sex tips, especially the part about missionary style where you are higher up on her to stimulate her clitoris.  If you never bring her to orgasm and she is still satisfied with your sex life; don’t complain, and lose the ego. You don’t have to get her to orgasm to be a great lover. 

Well you are correct in knowing better than to just come out and ask her if she minds if you watch Jenna Jameson Takes on the L.A. Anal Raiders while you nail her from behind and pull her hair.  Most women I have met either don’t care for porn or haven’t even thought much of it.  Some would be open to using porn as a sexual aid in the bedroom if the subject were approached properly.  What you need to do is gather info on how she feels about it.  Try to be somewhat sneaky and make sure your agenda is hidden when you do pry for information.  For example, an approach like this might work, “Dave’s wife totally flipped out on him this weekend because he asked her if she would mind if they watched porn while they had sex.”  If she says, "well I don’t blame her, that’s disgusting," then you pretty much know where you stand. 

If she acts like it was ridiculous of Dave’s wife to freak out about porn, then you could say, “so you wouldn’t mind if we did that as an aid to our sex life?”  The key word is "aid" to your sex life.  Make sure she knows you’re not wanting to watch some hot and dirty slut take it from behind, you’re simply just using it to increase your stimulation.  It’s just an aid to make the amazing sex with the love of your life a little bit better.  That, and that hot ass bitch with big fake titties taking a load on her face is just pretty fucking cool if you ask me. 

Well I’m not really sure where you are getting your info from.  If by “most girls” you mean the "one and only one that was dumb enough to sleep with you", then maybe it's because missionary was the only way she could feel your microscopic penis.  I’m just kidding homey, felt like taking a shot on that one, nothing personal.

In actuality I think your information may be a little off.  Most of the girls I've been with (and they are many in number) preferred doggy style or girl-on-top.  They like to be on top so they can feel in control by dictating the rhythm and flow.  They like doggy style because it feels dirtier almost animalistic, (hence the name doggy).  Doggy style also makes the penis feel deeper to them, which is a big help for you little guys out there. 

Girls might like the missionary position for a few reasons.  Some might like it because of the heightened clitoral stimulation when your pelvis presses against them during penetration.  If they're the romantic type, they might like missionary because they get to look into your eyes for that intimate connection.  They might also like missionary because it doesn't make them feel dirty or slutty like most other positions might.  I personally don’t care what position she likes as long as I am tickling those ribs. 

Not all girls refuse to have sex while on their period, but some do.  Usually the ones that are against it are a lost cause.  From my personal experience, the majority of women don’t have a problem with it.  They just worry the guy might think be grossed out because of it.  If you just flat out tell her that it doesn’t bother you at all, she might give you the green light.  Be sure to include a sappy heart-felt girly comment like "it doesn’t bother me, the most important thing is just being with you."  Girls eat that shit up.

What do you do if you're dealing with a girl who has already refused to have sex while on her period in the past?  The way I handle this situation is to reassure her that it doesn’t bother me at all and that it’s not that bad.  Ask her to just give it a try, for you, just once.  Tell her if it's the most horrible thing she’s ever done, then you’ll never ask her to do it again.  If she does decide to give it a shot, make sure nothing about it is uncomfortable for her, or she'll never let you do it again. 

If she just flat-out hates it, then plan on getting friendly with your right hand or even the stranger (your left hand).  This is a battle that is sometimes just unwinnable.  Something to keep in mind as you try to convince her is that it is scientifically proven that sex helps reduce menstrual cramps.  Ok, it’s not actually the sex that helps, it's the orgasms, but you just don’t have to tell her that.  If you can catch her at a time when she’s cramping and relieve the pain by getting her off, I guarantee you she'll come knocking for your one-eyed friend the next time Aunt Rose is in town.

GABRIEL